The rule states that “No Sorry and No Thank You” in Friendship. I abided by it! However, I realized it’s all bosh. In fact, Sorry and Thank You are two words that can save an ultimate friendship or relationship.
Having a best friend is special. Often, we talk about how wonderful it is to have them, but we never discuss the pain of losing them. The love you feel for a close friend is different from a love relationship. But, it is not less momentous. Unfortunately, the society today does not value the love for a best friend as much they do for a romantic love relationship.
This is about Shirley and me. Shirley and I had a long-distance relationship. We talked at least once a week, sometimes even more. We were two zones away. But for 9 years, since I moved away, we worked around that. We made a point of getting together 3 to 4 times a year. I love my husband, but loving Shirley is a different kind of love.
She was the first person I called when Tom asked me to marry him, even before I called my mom, dad and brother. Whenever he and I are at odds, she is always there to hear me out & help me see the situation more sensibly, and to walk me through the chaos with him. We always joked as to what would we do without each other.
Two months ago, Shirley updated her social media profile picture. She seemed to have put on weight. In a very genuine way I posted a comment saying, “You’ve put on weight my love, need to shed some!” Who knew this statement would rage a war between the two of us!!! It so happened that to my comment few of her other friends began to make a mockery of her weight. This made her feel humiliated to which she called me and we got in to a dispute. Which regrettably put our friendship to an end.
I truly had no intentions to make a mockery of Shirley. But due to the heat of the moment neither of us apologized.
Few days later, I began to contemplate with a cool mind. I did keep myself in her shoes and realized, I too could have reacted in the same manner if it had been me. That’s when I added her to my contact list on LYK . I showed her the magic of how we could keep our comments #private and no one could intervene. I apologized to her for everything i did unintentionally and so did she for overreacting.
Today, we are meeting over dinner at our favourite restaurant. We are going to take all our friendship vows once again and have a fresh start.