This may sound like an oxymoron. But this is true that like every other woman my major purpose of using social networks is to stay personal. Now don’t laugh at my perception of what social networks are all about because what I perceive is also personal.
Staying personal is the motto of most of the social network users these days. They prefer to get into a close group of chosen people and share all communications among them. They tend to select contacts and indulge into private chatting about all things around while still being on the social network.
Thus social and personal go hand in hand. The fun of social media is when we can get personal and private. Generally users do not want to go public with their messages until they actually have some agenda for the mass media. Hence social networks are expected to provide a private space to its users.
Sometimes we want to stay private in a group of connections or sometimes we may want to be personal with one person. But recently I realized you may also want to be private with your group of friends and at the same time may want to be critical about one person in the group. Then what happens? Exactly what happened to me yesterday evening, for being carelessly critical about a friend’s dressing sense.
Known as a super chatterbox I was living upto it as always. While all in my group was talking about new wardrobes and the new collections in the nearby fashion store, I casually mentioned the display picture of a friend and how uncomfortably and obscenely she was dressed in that pic, completely forgetting that she was there in the group only. “xxx quit the group”- the message popped up hushing me totally.
I was cursing myself for being forgetful, for being careless, for being insensitive and for being talkative. But what was done was done by then and rest of my friends were already sending swear words on private chats. I was scratching my head in search of a social network that would give me some peace.
Then a friend sent a link and asked to download as fast as I could. It was a link to LYK. This unique social network let me choose my group of connections before I share my message. I realized I could easily form a group with my selected friends. I could also make my comments private even on a group chat.