We all have secrets we don’t want others to know. Some secrets we’ll share with friends but not within family relationships. And some secrets we keep entirely to ourselves, maybe occasionally jotting them down in a diary. With the popularity of social media, such as Facebook, many people will tell things on there to people they’ve never actually met, possibly thinking it safer than telling the people they see every day in real life, although it really isn’t safer, because you don’t really know them and they could be anyone. Larger friends lists also make it hard to remember who all is on that list and might read your posts.
Why do we keep these secrets? Fear, for one. Fear of what people will think and say, of how you will appear to them. Fear of staining your reputation. Fear of looking weak. Fear that people will think you have done something stupid or wrong. Fear they will think you are making a bad decision about something. Fear of hearing what they will say, for you think they very well may be right. Instead of facing those fears, we keep the secret to ourselves.
Another reason could be stubbornness. Perhaps you’re facing something you don’t want to tell others about because you want to deal with it yourself and you don’t want to put them through any difficulties or make them worry.
Or perhaps it’s just something we’re dealing with that we feel is just too personal and we don’t want anyone to know about it. Perhaps it’s an infatuation with someone. Or perhaps its a broken heart.
Sometimes, we do eventually share some secrets with our closest friends, but not within our family relationships. It might be a secret about a crush on a fellow schoolmate. Or a secret activity you did, like going to a party instead of the library. Perhaps you talked about your schoolwork and grades. Perhaps it’s a secret about something that’s happened at work with a co-worker. Or maybe you shared a secret you learned about another friend.
But then, there are sometimes secrets that we feel we can’t share with anyone except family members or someone within our family relationships. These usually end up being the more personal secrets or secrets that have become too troublesome to hold onto any longer. Perhaps there is trouble with the job, such as a layoff. Or maybe there are other financial troubles, or even legal troubles. Perhaps there is a medical issue you’ve been afraid to talk about, or maybe there is an unexpected pregnancy. Perhaps you feel the need to finally come out of the closet. Whatever it is, you feel you can only tell your family about it. Why? Because they are family and they will be there for you when no one else will. They will listen to you, give you advice, give you help, and will keep your secret if you want them to.
Sometimes, though, you want to tell your secret but are afraid of doing it in person or feel you can’t speak it aloud. Or perhaps you need for more than just a couple of family members to hear your secret and give you advice, and it’d be hard to get in touch with all of them once, or some of them are hard to reach. At times like these, you need a way to be able to reach as many family members or as many people in family relationships as possible and a way for the hard-to-reach family members to be more in touch. For this, a private digital space for family members to reach out and communicate with each other over an open forum would be ideal. Something along the lines of a Facebook for family only so family can share news and secrets amongst only themselves. LYK APP is one social app that offers a feature for doing just that.